ROCK YOUR LIFE: 10 Ways to Get Motivated When Your Life Is Fuck'd Up
Everyone can feel unmotivated at times. Even the most positive people on Earth too go through this. Everyone can feel fucked-up sometimes.
Fuck'd Up: A level of status. Typically used in reference to being physically, mentally, morally/ asthetically, performance-wise, or even theoretically damaged in some way. It, in and of itself has many gradient levels, such as 'slightly fucked up', or 'extremely fucked up', but all versions have to do with describing the level of damage. A wonderfully universal root word, to be sure.
If you're a human and I mean, normal homo sapiens, sometimes we get into such a slump that even thinking about making positive changes seems too difficult.
But don't worry, there's hope for you to get your motivation back, step by step, tiny baby steps that can help you get started down the road to positive change.
It seems impossible at times, yes? You don't feel like doing anything. I've been there and I still find it really difficult from time to time. You're not alone. So hopefully these 10 Ways will be able to get you motivated when you're feeling really low and "shitty" about yourself.
There were many times in the past when I struggled financially, there was not even money for me to buy food. It's hard to face day after day and all that I could think of was about money, money and money! It's really hard to get started again, I'm not sure how I am going to continue with my life. I don't even feel like thinking about it-most of the times. But I've always found a way to break out of that slump and here are the 10 Ways To Help You Get Out Of Your Fucked-Up Life:
1. One Goal
Whenever I feel fucked-up, I've discovered that it's often because I have too much going on in my life. There are so many things that I want to accomplish and get done; in short-I'm trying to do too much. And it saps my energy and motivation. It's probably the most common mistake that people make: they try to take on too much, try to accomplish too many goals at once. You cannot maintain energy and focus which are the two most important things in accomplishing a goal, if you are trying to do two or more goals at once.
You have to choose one goal-while you're still feeling down and fucked-up-and focus on it completely. It will be hard. You'll feel disturbed, distracted and have the nagging feeling that the other jobs need to get done too. Still, I think you have your fair share of experience about this too. For now, you can always do your other goals when you've accomplished your One Goal.
2. Find Inspiration
Look at it this way. If you can't find inspiration from you, inspiration can come from others who have achieved what I want to achieve, or who are currently doing it. You should know and take the effort to know that you are not alone.
You can read other blogs, books, magazines, Google your goal, and read success stories. Just remember: if you can't find inspiration in yourself, you can find it in others.
3. Build Anticipation
This is part of the inspiration that I get from "Getting the Inspiration from others". If you somehow able (and God knows where you're going to get it-but I know you can do it!) to find inspiration and want to do a goal, don't start right away. Many of us will get excited and want to start today. That's a mistake. Set a date in the future - a week or two, or even a month - and make that your Start Date. Mark it on the calendar. Get excited about that date. Make it the most important date in your life. In the meantime, start writing out a plan. And do some of the steps below. You can build anticipation and slowly increase your focus and energy for your goal as you delay your start.
4. Post Your Goal
Print out your goal in big words. Make your goal just a few words long, like a mantra (In my case, "Write 2 Chapters. Daily"), and post it up on your wall or refrigerator. Post it at home, in your car and at work. Put it up as your wallscreen of your laptop. You want to have big reminders about your goal, to keep your focus and excitement going. A picture of your goal (like a hardcover book with my name on it) also helps.
5. Commit Publicly
You don't want to look bad in front of the others, do you? It's like an extra stimulant for you to do something when you've said what you're planning to do, publicly.
For example, when I started writing the Empress, I shared the news about the project on my Facebook page so that everyone of my 2, 000++ friends would know about it (of course, there's no guarantee every 2, 000 friend that I have on Facebook knows about it).
But there are many ways you can do this and one of it is by starting with your friends and family, and if you happen to own a blog, you can make use of the platform too!
Start holding yourself accountable and try commit to giving progress updates to everyone every week or so.
6. Think About It Daily
If you think about your goal every day, it is much more likely to become true. If you keep on thinking about it, it will somehow act as a reminder for you-to remind you the reason you're doing this whole thing in the first place. To this end, posting the goal on your wall or laptop or your car helps a lot.
And if you commit to doing on small thing to further your goal (in my case, even just a page a day) every single day, your goal will almost certainly become true. If you keep on doing it over and over, your tiny efforts will add up and make a mountain. Your body will turn this continuous action into habit and before you notice it, your work is almost completed.
7. Realize There's An Ebb And Flow
Motivation is not a constant thing that is always there for you. It comes and goes, and comes and goes again, like the tide. But realize that while it may go away, it doesn't go permanently. It will come back. Just stick it out and wait for that motivation to come back.
In the meantime, read about your goals continuously, start with the little actions everyday, ask for help if you must and share your progress publicly if you must, until your motivation comes back.
For me these days, when I somehow find myself with no money in the pocket to pay for food, I find it is really helpful to think that "God will never let me go hungry" and tomorrow my tummy is filled again, God willing.
8. Start Small. Really Small.
You are trying to achieve so many things at once. That's why you'd feel overwhelmed. If you are having a hard time getting started, it may be because you're thinking too big, too much and trying to accomplish so many things at once. Think of your goal as a long journey, and your fuck'd up moments is just a little bump in the road. You can't give up with every little bump.
Stay with it for the long term, ride out the ebbs and surf on the flows, and you'll get there.
And start with something small and easy.
9. Build On Small Success
If you start small for a week, little by little, you're one step closer than you were yesterday. It's hard to fail when you're just doing something that is really easy, isn't it? (If you are an author like me, start with half-a-page or a full page. That should be easy, don't you think so?)
But what happens after I'm able to complete a full page? I feel successful and good about myself. Then, I'll take that successful feeling and build on it, with another baby step, one by one. Slowly, I'll add one page tomorrow and another page the day after that.
With each step, you will feel even more successful. Make each step really, really small and it will actually be harder to fail. Before long, you'd have built a mountain of your precious works in front of you.
10. Get Rid Of The Negative Thoughts!
Be conscious with what you're thinking. Our human minds are really powerful and how we think will shape who we are outside and ergo, your reality is the result of your thinking. That's why it is important to start monitoring your thoughts. Recognize negative self-talk, which is really what's causing your slump.
Just spend a few days becoming aware of every negative thought. List them down so you're consciously aware of what you've been thinking. After a few days, try squashing those negative thoughts and replace them instead with a corresponding positive thought.
Keep on telling yourself, "I can do this. I can do this!"
The power of the mind, my friends. The power of the mind...