I regret whenever I lost it. There are a lot of different chemical reactions playing around in my head-embarrassment, disappointment, frustration and well, anger.
But it keeps on happening over and over again. I kept on trying to justify that I was right. That it was not my fault. That other people simply failed to do the simple things that I asked of them.
Truth is, it really is borne out of somebody who is anxious and insecure.
Goodness knows, I have been a witness of anger all my life. My parents used to fight at home when I was a little boy, my friends went through divorce because of disagreements, had lost a few friends along the way and received several reminders for being rude.
It's definitely not something I am proud of. I have seen firsthand what happened to the angry men out there.
It's an exercise that I have to go through on a daily basis, and sometimes it requires more effort on certain days.
Moving forward, it's really something that I should work on harder.
“Don’t focus on having a great blog.
Focus on producing a blog that’s great for your readers.”
I remember a time when a good friend of mine asked me for advice about blogging. I have been blogging since a decade ago, and I am quite comfortable with the lingo, affairs and the struggle to be heard and seen in the chaotic world, that is the internet.
Sure, we have read somewhere there are bloggers out there who earn thousands of dollars from their blogs every month and year, and this has inspired a group of people to start blogs of their own.
As with any newcomer in the "business", they went for free platforms such as Blogger, Wordpress, just to name a couple of blogging platforms that I'm most comfortable with. They select the blog theme with which they are going to present to their intended audience. Then, they sign up for bloggin advertising platforms such as Google Adsense and Nuffnang. At this point, it's not really a struggle. These steps are all the setup phase.
To begin with, the thing that usually turn people off who are just starting out blogging is when they have to decide the contents of their newly-created blogs.
Then, once they have sorted out the subjects, they then begin the writing process. For those that are not quite practiced in writing, here's something I have to share with you: it's a skill and skills are something that we practice over and over again to develop; writing is about crystallizing your thoughts and turn the complex ideas floating around in your head into a simple to consume format.
This is one of the reasons why some people who thought they wanted to follow in the footsteps of successful bloggers out there, fail. Once they have churned out their blog post and got it published, they somehow have this expectation that people would drop by to visit their sites and write comments.
After several posts have been published, there are still no feedback from their readers. There are hardly any comments, if at all. The money isn't coming into their advertisement account and before long, they start to post less and eventually, drop out of the game, bitter, disappointed and dispirited. "This is not for me. It's wasting my time."
FORGET ABOUT SEO ( FOR NOW )
I have friends who thought they could try to earn money from blogging advertising platforms such as Google Adsense, Nuffnang by copying articles from other sites and put those articles in their blogs. On top of that, they will somehow use all the all-important keywords and work on the SEO aspect of their websites.
DON'T TAKE SHORTCUTS
While I am an advocate of entrepreneurship and positivity, blogging is not about taking shortcuts. Just as newly-opened restaurants can't attract new customers by having the finest interiors but offer mediocre range of food, you can't expect to sustain on the long run (blogging) by taking shortcuts.
You need to learn to love writing. If you don't like it, then it will be a real struggle. Forget about SEO or social media strategies for now, just focus on the quality of your writing as well as the content you would like to present to your readers.
YOU ARE A JOURNALIST
In fact, if you are taking the time to write each post with more research as though any journalist would before they appear on the news, you will be more pleased with the collection of your quality writings than to worry about whether there are readers coming to visit your blog.
Some blogs that I had visited over the years posted, I don't know what I should write today...hmm...I guess I will be talking about what I had for breakfast, or what I did last weekend.
While it is a personal online space for us to write our thoughts and get them published on the internet, if you are looking for quality readers, my advice for you is to focus on producing quality posts rather than posting for the sake of...er...posting.
I appreciate those who had visited me then and wrote their comments, however it was not quality, rather it was merely focusing on quantity. Now, when I decide to write comments in other people's blogs, I make it a point to write something only if I have something meaningful to write, with the hope that it would lead to further discussion.
Also, by spending some time to research well before you write and then publish, you ensure:
I. Your posts are not rushed.
II. You have a collection of quality posts.
III. You can use your blog as a walking resume'.
For the third point above, I make it a point to whomever I meet to read more about me at my blog. I got hired for some projects in the past because my clients had read my works. It was great. I had even encouraged my potential employers during job interviews to visit this site before they hire me, to get a full picture of the person they are hiring.
COMMIT TO QUALITY
If you want to start your own blog, start writing. Don't worry yourself with the social media and SEO. That should not be your priority at the moment. Be different and write with authority. If you can't imagine yourself going through the rough patches, then I'm afraid it's going to be really difficult for you to last in this game.